In light of this, I’ve been thinking about what we, as care givers, can do for others who have experienced deep loss and are going through the grieving process. Here are my thoughts.
Walking With Someone
There must be a distinction between helping someone not hurt or avoid pain, which can sometimes happen because it's not easy to watch someone suffer, and walking with or sitting with someone in their pain. Sometimes with grief comes intense and extreme emotions, and sometimes it can take a while. I think we help someone have long-term emotional health by not putting a time limit on their grief and just offering to be with this person in it.
Sometimes when someone is going through deep pain, they cannot focus on what would otherwise be "normal", daily, practical things. When someone is sitting in a lot of pain, it can be overwhelming to do small tasks that are otherwise mundane, like grocery shopping, paying bills, etc... It can be very helpful to offer to help in these ways to someone who is hurting, because they most likely will not be able to do them. This area takes sensitivity because one person may feel that in order to get through their pain, they need to keep themselves busy by doing things. In this case, I think we, as care givers, can offer politely but not push, and just be ready for when they say yes.
God, the Victor of Death
n the grieving process, we trust that God, who is bigger than death, comes to this person, who has experienced loss, and gives them comfort and peace. Because of Jesus, we know that God truly suffers with us. And because Jesus rose, we know that God is the victor of death. We cannot pretend to be God or do things that only God can do, but we know these things: God has made a covenant to God’s people, God exists for God’s people, and God hurts with God’s people. God works and reveals in ways that only God does and knows how to.
And now we pray that God, you would please comfort this family and friends in only the way you can, heal in only the way you can and love in only the way you can. Thank you for being our constant in the midst of so many uncertainties and pain.